The more you love someone, the more you feel their pain. Jesus wept because he loved Mary and Martha,1 and he loves you too.
The creator of the universe knows your pain. Your pain is his pain, and will continue to be until he makes all things new.
While sin continues to reign in this world, it will cause much pain. In order to be set free from our own sin, we must trust Jesus (death will not have the final say) and reach out and help the poor and oppressed. This is—and must be—part of the process of setting us free from our sin and teaching us how to love. And it is the only way to set this world right.
“To try too hard to make people good is one way to make them worse. The only way to make them good is to be good.” ~ George MacDonald
The more we know how much God loves us, the less we will fear death; we will be willing to suffer, and even risk our own lives for the sake of others.
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1. Jesus knew Lazarus was ok (see John 11). He who is perfect love will have the final say, not death.